Husband confesses about other women

A 33-YEAR-OLD man confessed in a local court that he had a girlfriend because his wife sleeps in boxer shorts. Dominic Sando of Kabulonga Township in Lusaka told the Chilenje local court that he found himself a girlfriend because his wife, Mary Sitali, 29, denies his marital rights by sleeping in shorts. Sando was testifying in a case in which Sitali sued him for reconciliation.

The two got married in 2000 and they have three children.

Sitali said friction in their marriage started in 2006 while she was pregnant and Sando got himself a girlfriend. She said that she developed pregnancy problems and she gave birth prematurely. She said, however, that their marital rift continued and that in May 2009 he started another affair with a neighbour.

Further Sitali said when she confronted Sando about this he said that there was no problem and that he no longer loved her (Sitali). She left the matrimonial home three months ago when Sando forced her to leave.

Asked by the court on why they could not shift to another residential area to keep the neighbour at bay, Sitali said that the house they occupied belonged to Sando’s employer.

And in his statement, Sando said that he still loved Sitali and that although he once had a girlfriend, he stopped the affair and he apologised to Sitali.

“Since that time, she gets annoyed when I get home late. She would then sleep in her shorts for two weeks. She says that she can’t make love with me because I am flirting with an HIV-positive woman,” Sando said.

Sando said that this compelled him to get another girlfriend who is a pupil at Kabulonga Girls High School.

In submission, Sitali said that she wants to keep their children together with Sando because a schoolgirl cannot take care of them.

Sando said that Sitali should stop sleeping in a pair of shorts.

Senior presiding magistrate Irene Mundia reconciled the couple and cautioned Sando against having multiple sexual partners because he risked contracting HIV.
Magistrate Mundia also advised Sitali to stop sleeping in her shorts because this encouraged Sando to look for other women.